"... I am not sure if they are doing this (relating and getting to know that individual) out of responsibility (because I am a youth worker) or genuine concern, but I still thank God for them..."
This is something definitely worth watching out for. But I believe both RESPONSIBILITY & CONCERN work hand in hand. If you are just a responsible person, you will be insensitive. Because you have a "just want to get the job done" mentality, it will show in the kind of questions you ask, behavior towards the person, things you talk about with the person. If you are just a concerned person, you will be inconsistent and selective. Because whether you help the person or not depends on whether you "feel" the concern or not. If the feeling goes away, there goes your concern as well. And given our personality differences, we won't be able to "feel" for every individual we meet because there will be just some people we love to hate.So if you ask me, you gotta have both and strike a balance between RESPONSIBILITY & CONCERN. The truth is that if we are able to determine in our minds to be responsible in showing concern to the other person, our hearts will be moved to "feel" for the person overtime. As the Chinese proverb goes "日久深情." Same thing with B/G relationships. Someone was sharing with me that when he first started off the relationship with his current wife, he started with a decision to love her, with "chemistry" or "feeling" aspect taking a much lesser priority for a simple reason. If it was based on feelings, what if one day the feeling goes away? Will he still be able to love her? What should spur us then even in pursuing a relationship with someone is the intelligent decision to love him/her for who she really is deep within, not just what our feelings tell us.
(P.S: I am speaking this for myself to remember. :) )
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