爱的教育

I don't really like that mode of teaching. But the society advocates it.

Was just hearing my bball khaki ranting over how this parent went into the school and starting pointing fingers at my friend as she was blaring over issues with the school, the teachers, how her boy was treated etc. and my friend basically shoot her back by saying, "Ai Auntie, you better keep your fingers to yourself hor!". (My friend is not really the patient kind, haha.) It then led to a series of exchanges and finally a call up to the principle's office as the auntie wrote a complaint to MOE about my friend, the very same day.

Then the bball coach who were with us chipped in saying that "Nowadays, the youth are too protected by their parents already. They think they are the kings now. You cannot anyhow scold or touch them liao." Then he went on to comment about how the primary school kids he were coaching also showed much attitude and how they complain to their parents that they don't like the coach because they did not choose them into the main squad when their attitude during training was super stink.

I recall my days of growing up. From my primary school days to my army days. How I value those times when I am scolded, punished, pushed, challenged and made to work to finally be who I am today. Sure I didn't enjoy those times but I definitely came out stronger because of the "hardships" I went through. Probably that's why it grips my heart when the people and students I work with cannot take a little rebuke and a little hardship. If you are too harsh on them, they will think that you are insensitive and "run away" from you. If you are too nice to them, they will "eat" you up and be very comfortable with where they are, even though it is not good for them.

But as much as I don't buy the "爱的教育" style, the Bible does speak about love.

1 Cor 13:4Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

So I guess it's going to take me a lifetime to find a balance between loving someone and training someone.